Your wedding is your own. And in today’s society, people have been constantly scouring every book for any way to make their wedding as personal and as unique as possible. One way to do this is to whip up your own wedding vows.
Traditionally, couples to be wed do not have much of a say in what goes into many of the words spoken during the wedding ceremony. Today, it is increasingly getting easier to personalize and influence what is said during the ceremony – within reasonable bounds, though.
If you desire to make your wedding vows unique and personal, you are not alone. Many other couples incorporate feelings, and intimate messages into their wedding vows. It has an added effect of making your wedding more touching, dramatic, and memorable.
Talk with the Officiant Ahead of Time
If you would like to personalize your wedding vows, first notify your Officiant to find out the legalities, guidelines and rules in drafting your own wedding vows. He or she will typically give pointers and examples to help you draw up your own vows. Furthermore, the Officiant will inform you of the parts of the vow that are expected to be said.
The Topic
It may include promises, such as “I will swear upon my life to do
…” or it may be heartfelt messages for each other, or even hopes
for each other plans for the future and such. You may also
opt to create a mixture of each to spice up your wedding
vows. Although norms vary from culture to culture, as a
general rule, the wedding vow should not take too long to
recite. Keep it concise yet meaningful. Remember, you
will have to recite this, and long recitations tend to make the
memory suffer.
Make it Official
After creating a draft of the vows you wish to exchange, it would
do well to meet up with the Officiant again and show him a draft of
your vows. Although in the end, it is ultimately your
decision that is followed, do take heed of the Officiant’s advice,
as it is usually sound and has been honed by experience.
Practice
It is a good idea to practice your vows before the wedding.
Although there is no rule against reading vows, a thoroughly
practiced, heartfelt rendition of the vow will definitely make a
lasting impact on your partner and the people witnessing the
ceremony. As mentioned earlier, avoid overly long vows as
they tend to be less remembered and are harder to memorize, not to
mention quite inconvenient to others. You may do so, however,
if you feel the need is justified.
The Performance
When reciting your vows during the wedding, always keep calm.
People who are tense tend to speak to fast, and since the wedding
vow is a very important part of the wedding, you will want to take
your time in the spotlight. Loosen up, so that in case you
forget a line or two during the exchange of vows, you will at least
be able to bounce back with something from your heart. If you
desire so, you may also keep a written version of you vows with
you. You might want to read it surreptitiously though.
Good luck on your wedding, and may the sweet words you utter during the exchange of vows never lose their meaning for rest of your days!
